“The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.”

One of the great signs of growth and maturity in the faith is seeing a person “tame” their tongue. One of the most impactful and obvious signs of a person’s faith journey is when their speech softens. Not necessarily becoming quieter, but the words, tone, and frequency become easier to hear and respond to. Spouses and parents are usually the first to notice. There is more kindness in the style and content of the believer as they age and mature. If there is not, I tend to doubt their growth. I don’t see a need to ever raise one’s voice at another adult, except if they are about to step into danger or if it is an exclamation of joy, excitement, or celebration. No one actually has any right to holler at another adult, no matter the reason. If someone’s work is displeasing, instruct them or let them go. Yelling at them is never okay. To begin this chapter, we see Solomon’s reminder that a “gentle word” is disarming. It calms the listener’s spirit and makes them more receptive to what is being said. We ultimately have no control over another’s response, but we have, if we are mature, complete control over how we speak. Scripture tells us God can be heard in a still small voice. So should we. Today, speak kindly. #BeTheEdge

“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” Colossians 3:12 NIV